There’s a new trend where wedding favors are concerned. It’s to bypass them completely and to donate the money that would have been spent on favors, to a charity of the couple’s choice. Weddings in part, are a way for a couple to introduce who they are as a couple, and for many, being socially conscious is a message that they want to convey. There are some guidelines for incorporating charitable giving into your wedding, however.
There are a number of ways that a couple can tactfully convey that message of a donation to their guests. By far the easiest and perhaps the most tactful way to get the word out, is to deliver that message in one high traffic area like the gift table. If you make this announcement at every guest table, you run the risk of leaving the wrong message, one where guests assume you’re merely looking for a pat on the back which diminishes the overall intent behind the donation.
The words you choose to convey this message are important. If your message states that you are donating money in your guest’s names, it may lead some to worry that you’ve given their name to the charity for future use (not true of course, but it might still lead some guests down that rabbit hole), and not all guests may support your charity of choice. If you are a staunch supporter of a particular breed of dog and some of your guests despise dogs, this could be problematic. Then again being the dog lover that I am, I could also make a case for not inviting them to the wedding at all, but I digress. J
Keep the message simple. Something like this works well….”The bride and groom have made a donation to xyz charity and thank you for sharing their very special day” or “The bride and groom have made a donation to xyz charity in memory of the groom’s mother who can’t be here with us today, but will live on in our hearts forever.”
Your donation really is not a gift to your guests, it’s a gift to the charity of your choice. Please don’t lose sight of that. If you want to incorporate both a favor for your guests and a donation to your favorite charity, a fun way to do both, is to have a themed candy table. This is one place where the two concepts will work well together.
You don’t want your wedding to look like a fundraiser, so stay away from “props” that the charity may provide. You don’t need the charity’s wristbands banding your napkins or adding the charity’s information to your menu cards. In that same vein, all of those props cost the charity money, money that could be going to finding a cure for example. Make sure that your donation has legs and that the majority of that donation will be used productively.
Make your donation meaningful. Select a charity that you truly believe in and one that you would be proud to be affiliated with. There are so many great ones out there, so choose wisely. In fact, New England Wedding Professionals, Inc. will be providing a forum at their Wedding Workshop on October 3, 2012 from 6 PM to 9 PM at the Hilton Boston Woburn Hotel in Woburn, MA, where you can meet some very worthy charities if you want to consider including a donation in your wedding plans. This will be a fun filled evening for all brides and grooms to attend. Their experts (including yours truly), will be conducting mini seminars on a host of wedding related topics including charitable giving that will help any couple plan their wedding to perfection. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the whole wedding process, this is your opportunity to receive tangible wedding solutions that really work. To learn more about this great event, please visit www.NEWPweddings.com.
Until next time, happy planning everybody.
Terri Altergott PBC™
Something Borrowed, Something New Events
Extraordinary Destination Weddings
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